The dictionary defines the word vector as “(to) direct (an aircraft in flight) to a desired point.” In life too, one needs an appropriate vector to guide us to our desired goals. And my client B needed one.
Over the years since he had joined his father in his business, he had progressively moved into an increasingly executive role. With his father involving himself less and less in the business, he was now at the cusp of a critical decision - how should he now define his role to himself?
Enter the coach.
Over two intense coaching conversations, wide ranging at first and funneling into more focused ones, he gradually arrived at a role definition which proved a powerful vector. And that was the role of a ‘Change agent’.
This role definition has proved to be transformational, providing him clarity of action and purpose. And this has translated into more satisfying outcomes
Management Notes are my reflections as a Business coach on my coaching experiences with my clients. It is also about my insights and inspiration drawn from things I hear, read and see everyday.
24 November, 2016
Your Goals Need High-octane Fuel
20 November, 2016
The Power of Story
When I asked him what his values were, he looked a bit lost. After some thought, he said the 7 Habits book had influenced him greatly. But as a coach, I saw a difference between ‘influencing’ and ’driving’. For, values not only influence - they drive every one of our actions and define our emotional states. Experiences aligning with our values are considered reward and violation a threat.
So I had to make him think deeper.
The solution? Tell a story, a personal experience that shaped my own life. I shared one such, and voilà, he immediately came up with five of his own values.
That's the power of the story. It has the power to shift your thinking.
07 January, 2016
Navigating Emotions
To navigate something as intangible and changeable as cologne, industry “noses” require a vocabulary of sorts. But the key among all the nomenclature is the ”family” to which the fragrance belongs (eg ‘floral’, ’aquatic’, woody’). Like human families, these boxes often bleed into another and you can end up with unusual hybrids. - Bloomberg
CoachConnect
Human emotions, like fragrances, are just as intangible and changeable, and they too can end up as unusual hybrids. The coach, by helping the client give appropriate labels to his emotions provides a handle to better deal with them.
06 January, 2016
Unproductive Emotions Take a Toll
The key to projecting an air of power is being self-confident, says the Business Insider. And the worst thing for self-confidence is having a nagging thought about a flaw in your appearance. No one may notice the missing button on your jacket, but as soon as start to worrying about it, your behavior may unconsciously draw attention to it.
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Has it happened that what you are worried most about, turns out as inconsequential as that missing button on the jacket? Unproductive emotions take a toll on our priorities. Conversations with a coach, help take a healthier perspective on life.
05 January, 2016
The Coaching Approach
Intelligence, takes more than one form. There is the linear, which enables us to deal with the material world; & there is the intuitive, over which we have no conscious control. It is this latter intelligence that is the source of creativity. - Alan Garner
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“It is as if my every thought is getting a voice.” said my client D after a coaching session. This state is born of a deep trust & comfort of being with one who wishes only your success, This, along with a design thinking approach produces an uninhibited, nonlinear expression of ideas that tap into the client's ability to intuit.
02 January, 2016
Ruthless Prioritisation
“The conversation with you”, said client B, “made me realize that I am spending only 0.5% of my time on my key priorities“.
CoachConnect
This kind of a realisation is a result of a deep dive into what you really want in life, and how you want to take your business to new heights. It’s a process Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook would call ‘Ruthless Prioritisation’.
Want to know what your Ruthless Priorities are and fast track your personal and business growth? Get in touch.
01 October, 2015
Why a Coach?
Vishal Gondal bought different fitness bands and apps to keep fit but none helped him achieve his goals.
Till he met a coach.
The coach began asking him for his data and started tracking what he was doing and how he was doing, on a regular basis. With this regular tracking and monitoring by the coach - who wouldn't meet him on a daily basis - he managed to remain committed to the daily targets. His learning; technology alone cannot achieve fitness goals, human interface and engagement is equally important to achieve necessary results.
#Learning
If fitness goals are hard to achieve on one's own, what of life and business goals? Being on our own and lacking the expert advice of a coach results in limited engagement with our goals, limited reinforcement and limited motivation and therefore, failure to achieve them. Ultimately It is not about setting goals, it is about how much of an impact their successful achievement has on the health of your business and the happiness of your people.
08 August, 2012
10 Reasons Why I Am Passionate about Coaching
The Eureka Hour!
And the bottom line - my clients’ every ‘ah aah’ moments give me SATISFACTION, their successful outcomes FULFILLMENT and the learning, ENRICHES my life.
Thank you Haas, Simon and Tony!
09 April, 2012
Planners and Doers
02 April, 2012
Coaching For Ethical Dilemmas
Manuel Velasquez is a professor of Business ethics and the author of a widely used text book.In their article Thinking Ethically: A Framework for Moral
Decisions Making he and his associates describe
five different approaches which philosophers down the ages have developed to deal with moral issues.
- Could this decision or situation be damaging to someone or to some group? Does this decision involve a choice between a good and bad alternative, or perhaps between two "goods" or between two "bads"?
- Is this issue about more than what is legal or what is most efficient? If so, how?
- What are the relevant facts of the case? What facts are not known? How can I help the client learn enough about the situation to make a decision?
- What individuals and groups have an important stake in the outcome? Are some concerns more important? Why?
- What are the options open to client for acting? Have all the relevant persons and groups been consulted? Have?How can I help client identify creative options?
- Ask following questions to help client evaluate the options:
- Which option will produce the most good and do the least harm? (The Utilitarian Approach)
- Which option best respects the rights of all who have a stake? (The Rights Approach)
- Which option treats people equally or proportionately? (The Justice Approach)
- Which option best serves the community/organizationas a whole, not just some members/employees/stakeholders?(The Common Good Approach)
- Which option can lead client to act as the sort of person he wants to be? (The Virtue Approach)
- Considering all these approaches, which option could best help client address the situation?
- If the client told someone he respects-or told a television audience-which option he has chosen, what would they say?
- How can the client's decision be implemented with the greatest care and attention to the concerns of all stakeholders?
- How did the decision turn out and how can I help client review learning from this specific situation?
By using The 5-Step framework coaches can help their clients to work through their moral and value conflicts, and shape behaviors for conceiving and re-conceiving how they can build for growth.
20 March, 2012
Coaching Using Principles of Behavioral Economics
- Anyone who indirectly influences the choices
people make, the authors say, can be called "choice
architect". A coach does exactly that, hence he is a "choice
architect" too.
- Choice
architecture, can be used to help nudge people to make better choices (as
judged by themselves) without forcing certain outcomes upon anyone. This
is one of the basic tenets of coaching.
- The tools described by the authors (though
differing in nature and application) sound very similar to the ones a
coach would use. For instance, the tools highlighted are:
- Expecting
error (the coach tool: empathy)
- Understanding
mappings (the coach uses assessments to map client needs)
- Giving
feedback (a primary coaching tool)
- Structuring
complex choices (the coach is a clarifier)
- Creating
incentives. (the coach uses small wins as
incentives so client is motivated for the big wins)
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| Stephen Covey's Proactive Model |
- Self-awareness
- Imagination
- Conscience
- Independent Will
- Nudging Client Self-awareness: Faced with important decisions about their lives, people often make pretty bad choices—choices they would not have made if they paid full attention and possessed complete information, unlimited cognitive abilities and complete self-control. They adopt rules of thumb that sometimes lead them astray. The explanation, according to Thaler and Sunstein, is rooted in some well-documented human behavioral quirks that are amplified by information overload and trying to cope in a complex world. All this leaves people with little time to think deeply about every choice they have to make. The Nudge Coach helps create awareness of their cognitive abilities and the resources available to them for better self-control.
- Nudging Client Imagination: Sunstein and Thaler have spent a lot of time thinking about how people can be encouraged to make better decisions, and they offer some intriguing ideas. Their central thesis: People will make better choices if they are given a clear and well-designed set of options that acknowledge and offset human idiosyncrasies. For helping client's design and structure the options available to them, the coach has to take into account his knowledge of behavioral science. By helping to rightly structure the choices available to the client, a coach helps to nudge clients to do the 'right' thing.
- Nudging Client Conscience: Mythologist Devdutt Pattanaik explains that the ideas of right or wrong, good or bad exist only among humans. No animal is good or bad - only humans would pity the antelope being being made meal of by a predator such as a a cheetah in a National Geographic documentary. Humans are greedy, unlike animals, who stop eating once their stomachs are full. Thus says Pattanaik, humans have the capacity to be worse than animals (greedy) and better than animals (generous). And it is in these subjective choices - greed vs generosity, right vs wrong and good vs bad that the coach, by structuring choices available to the clients, helps them to to improve decisions about their health, wealth and happiness.
- Nudging Client Will: One of the basic tenets of behavioural economics
is that people do not always take rational decisions. They have status
quo bias and change doesn't come easily.
For reasons of laziness, fear, and distraction, many people will take whatever option requires the least effort, or the path of least resistance. All these forces imply that if, for a given choice, there is a default option—an option that will obtain if the chooser does nothing. The
solution - helping coaching clients first make their choices, and then hold them accountable to their choice. Holding them accountable can at times make the client feel challenged. A useful approach to overcome this is the one akin to the program in gmail. Every time a user mentions the word attachment
but does not include one, prompts a
pop-up, “Did you forget your attachment?” Similarly, by reminding
the client of his commitment to the choice he has made, the coach can nudge
the client will in non-threatening manner.
12 December, 2011
Journey to a Coaching Insight
Best Practices: Means solutions to the client's pain points uncovered through discussions with clients or assessments. These practices for improving skills and processess may (but not necessarily) be picked up from what competitors or industry leaders have employed successfully.
Next practices: Means looking beyond typical sorces of information like successful past strategies or even strategies that industry leaders are currently using. It means looking at future challenges and developing a strategy with new solutions and services. Requires coach in helping client imagine the future and look at ways to capitalize on the opportunities. Next practices are innovations meant to address such opportunities that create new dimensions of performance.
To Journey's End
But my understanding was not yet complete. I still had to figure out how exactly all this played out in my coaching practice, which the image below did.
My coaching practice, I noted, was directed at 3 levels
- Individual (Owner/Business head),
- Work group (Key Decision-makers and/or executives)
- Business (Working at both the above levels to impact whole business)
- Individual (Owner/Business head),
- Work group (Key Decision-makers and/or executives)
- Business (Working at both the above levels to impact whole business)
The process innovations co-created by the coach and the client and/or his team were across a continuum from Best practices to Next practices. We traveled the continuum in three ways:

- Streamlining: Understand client's pain points. Look at, and adapt best practices of competition to address the pain points.
- Surfacing: Tap into client's vision for his business, or if one does not exist, help to develop one. Visualize opportunities in the context of the vision and co-create ways of capitalizing on them. Give concrete shape to the aspired future through an Action or Project plan..
- Inventing: Help 'invent' the future. Co-create the next practices to ensure successful outcomes.
The net result of coaching efforts directed at meeting current needs and/or aspired future are felt at 3 levels of the client's business:
- Structure and/or Culture: A Structures and/or Culture in sync with the desired goals.
- Roles: Better understanding of Leadership and Employee roles in sync with desired goals.
- Procedures: Tools and techniques for Strategy development, Customer relationship management, Communication, Collaboration and other critical areas of business success.
End of Journey. Beginning of Another
This leg of my journey - figuring out the what and how of innovation in my coaching practice, was now complete. I had started out by trying to address the discomfort I had felt with the use of the word innovation, and ended up, not only a wonderful understanding of it, but much more! I now had, not only a proper definition of innovation in my mind, but had understood the difference between Best practices and Next practices. Most important of all, I had understood exactly how all this played out in my coaching practice!
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- Streamlining: Understand client's pain points. Look at, and adapt best practices of competition to address the pain points.
- Surfacing: Tap into client's vision for his business, or if one does not exist, help to develop one. Visualize opportunities in the context of the vision and co-create ways of capitalizing on them. Give concrete shape to the aspired future through an Action or Project plan..
- Inventing: Help 'invent' the future. Co-create the next practices to ensure successful outcomes.
- Structure and/or Culture: A Structures and/or Culture in sync with the desired goals.
- Roles: Better understanding of Leadership and Employee roles in sync with desired goals.
- Procedures: Tools and techniques for Strategy development, Customer relationship management, Communication, Collaboration and other critical areas of business success.
End of Journey. Beginning of Another
10 December, 2011
The Theory of Coaching
From his own experience as well as those of others, Amundsen learnt that successful explorers are cautious. They remain flexible, and are ready to adapt targets and plans in light of conditions. When conditions are not right, it is better to turn back rather than rely on hope and luck. He believed that bad luck is often the result of insufficient preparation. This was his theory.
Links
- A Chapter from Christensen's The Growth Imperative
- The Leadership Lessons of the Race to the South Pole
- The Difference Between Coaching and Consulting.
- How the Coach Helped the Keen to Grow Butterfly.
01 December, 2011
Leaders as Role Models
- The values they establish for the organization.
- The business and people concepts they establish.
Successful organizations have leaders who set high standards and goals across the entire spectrum, such as strategies, market leadership, plans, meetings and presentations, productivity, quality, and reliability.
These goals, values, and concepts make up the organization's personality or how the organization is observed by both outsiders and insiders. And it is this personality which defines the roles, relationships, rewards, and rites that take place, that the leader has to role model.
Useful resource: Sample chapter from the book The Leader as Role Model http://tinyurl.com/bnv2jz8
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